The self-esteem issues that people have In today’s society are connected to the unhealthy expectations of other people. It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you, but if you trust the Lord, you are safe. (Proverbs 29:25). Your worth, (self-esteem) is not connected to your gross worth, to your successes, or to what any person may think of you. You are not defined by other peoples opinions, you are not defined by your job, your self-esteem is not associated to your trophies or your accomplishments, and to clear up a another myth, your self-esteem is not defined by the size of your penis or by the size of your breasts. It’s not what you have that makes you who your are, it’s not what is on the outside that defines your self-esteem, you are defined by your essence. Stop being gullible and live. Start traveling the road to understanding." (Proverbs 9:6). The ending outcome is always better than it’s beginning.
When you have some understanding in your heart of what God thinks of you, how much he loves you, how precious you are in his sight, your self-esteem issues will change and you will never worry about another persons opinion of you again. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God. (Ephesians 3:18-19). Your affirmation does not come from the world or from the people of this world, but if you allow it, that is where your self-esteem issues will arise.
O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord. You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand! I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave, you are there. If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me. I could ask the darkness to hide me and the light around me to become night- but even in darkness I cannot hide from you. To you the night shines as bright as day. Darkness and light are the same to you. You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so complex! Your workmanship is marvelous- how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me! Psalm 139:1-18
Many people go through their lives unfulfilled, seeking purpose for their lives, and looking for approval and affirmation from people. They may obtain temporary boosts to their self-esteems, but sooner or later that which is inflated runs out of hot air. This is why so many people fall into traps, flattery may taste good to the tongue, but it’s poison to your system. Many people flatter others for their own personal interests, by smooth talk and flattery they deceive innocent people, (see Romans 16:18). Self-esteem issues can occur because people associate their net worth with money, sooner or later your self-esteem will suffer if you make money your God. You can have a large bank account and still not find fulfillment or purpose in your life. "No matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love." 1 Corinthians 13:3
The source of your life, down to your very breathe, stems from the source of love, which is God. Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God…for God is love. (1 John 4:7-8). You see, your source of love, affirmation, purpose, and thus your self-esteem comes from Gods love for you. To deny Gods love for you is to deny yourself, it’s a personal self-esteem issue that effects your self worth, and your purpose, thus leaving you bankrupt. Some men stay healthy until the day they die…others have no happiness at all; they live and die with bitter hearts, Job 21:23-23. A persons stubborn pride can block their own blessings, by the freedom of their own choices, their self-esteem suffers bankruptcy. "Everything, absolutely everything, above and below, visible and invisible…everything got started in him and finds its purpose in him." Colossians 1:16
Your self-esteem issues are connected to your own fears, your fears of inadequacy, your fears of embarrassment, your fears of rejection, your fear of comparison, and your fear of failure. Your personal fears are a road block to a healthy self-esteem. Just like your fingerprint you are unique, there is no one else like you, you are wonderfully and fearfully made. You can not compare yourself to others without self-esteem issues, and expect to remain healthy, you are different. When you find your purpose in God you will understand why your essence is so significant. Until you let go of your fears and pursue your giftings in God you will continue to be like a dog chasing it’s tail. I know the plans that I have for you, declares the LORD. They are plans for peace and not disaster, plans to give you a future filled with hope. Jeremiah 29:11
As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. 1 Peter 4:10
"Two sparrows are sold for a penny, aren’t they? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground without your Father’s permission. Indeed, even the hairs on your head have all been counted! Matthew 10:29-30
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8
The Lord is my shepherd; I have all that I need. He lets me rest in green meadows; he leads me beside peaceful streams. He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name. Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me. Your rod and your staff comfort me. You prepare a feast for me in the presence of my enemies. You honor me by anointing my head with oil. My cup overflows with blessings. Surely your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life, and I will live in the house of the Lord forever. Psalm 23:1-6
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28
Be diligent to present yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth. 2 Timothy 2:15
"The beginning of wisdom is: Acquire wisdom; And with all your acquiring, get understanding. "Prize her, and she will exalt you; She will honor you if you embrace her. "She will place on your head a garland of grace; She will present you with a crown of beauty." Proverbs 4:7-9
Pursue your life in God, ask Jesus into your heart right now, ask Him to be your Lord and savor, ask Him to forgive your sins, to direct your paths, and to fulfill your purposes in Him. Seek wisdom, spend time in Gods word, (the bible), plug into a good Christian church, and you will find the fulfillment of your hopes and dreams come to pass. Your self-esteem issues are waiting for you to open the door.